The last “good bye” was said (or sobbed, screamed, etc.), now what?

I know exactly how you feel…I’ve been there and I pulled many young ladies out of there. I know what you want to do now, and ONLY if you want to get stuck in this terrible condition for a long time, can you cry, drink, eat comfort food, call up your “group of support from girlfriends, gay friends, and relatives” and listen to “I-told-you-he-is-a-jerk” opinions for days. Oh, romantic movies and music with antidepressants would complete the picture. And you can stop reading this post right here.

However, if you WOULD LIKE TO FEEL GREAT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE and move forward, you have to stick to the “I WILL BE THE HAPPIEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD” plan.

I always compare going through a break up with losing weight because it is easy to gain and absolutely hard to lose.

It’s easy to let yourself go and swim in love, and hard to accept the fact that it’s over. So, you should

1. Accept that “this is over”.

2. Realize that this is YOUR LIFE and YOUR LIFE is about YOUR HAPPINESS, and YOU ARE in charge of making yourself happy.

3. Stop going inside your head from picturing thousands of ways to murder your ex to imagining your three beautiful kids graduating from the college if you (didn’t do, didn’t say, didn’t want, or he didn’t do, didn’t say, didn’t ….)

4. Understand that like attracts like so if you are sad, angry, or jealous you’ll get more of the same, so you need to stick to something that makes you feel good.

5. Stop “spreading the dirt on the glass” – chewing the broken heart gum and talking to friends. You’ll have an aftertaste after those conversations anyways.

6. Know that it will take time to get over, and this is the perfect time for doing something good. Remember, behind every successful woman stays someone who has pissed her off.

7. Be familiar with the concept that it’s not a good idea to date someone else at this “recovery time”. You won’t meet the love of your life – just attract another sad individual who’d match your own feelings.

8. Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Yes, you lost your boyfriend/husband but some people lose their own lives, and people they love.

9. Figure out what you hated in your ex and what you hate in men in general. Write it down. Now based on what you’ve written write what you want. Isn’t this person is much better then your ex? Just wait, if you really want a person like this, you’ll attract him eventually.

10. Resize your ego. 99 percent of the break up is not about losing him but is about getting hurt. The bigger your ego, the longer the recovery.

No man is worth your tears, and when you find the man who is, he’ll never make you cry. (Anonymous )

Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. (Albert Einstein)

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else. (Anonymous )

If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be. (Anonymous )

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime. (Better Davis)

Don’t let someone become your everything, because when they’re gone you have nothing! (Kenya Mitchell)

I dont know why they call it heartbreak. It feels like every part of my body is broken too. (Chloe Woodward)

Love is like a war:Easy to begin Hard to end! (ancient proverbs)

BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THEN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL (Hemmingway)

Love is blind — marriage is the eye-opener. (Pauline Thomason)

If a relationship is to evolve, it must go through a series of endings. (Lisa Moiyama)

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2) When you don’t care if your legs are shaved, nails are done and roots are colored before your date.

3) When you envy your single girlfriend (friend) when she/ he is getting ready for the “girls/ boys night out”

4) When while telling your best friend about yesterday’s “romantic dinner” you spent 98% of the time describing the menu.

5) When sex can be easily substituted with gym workout (and especially with a cute instructor)

6) When 8 times out of 10 you let the voice mail to pick up

7) When you sit with him/her, imagine that him/her, you and your mutual baby sits with you and you feel claustrophobic and depressed.

When his snoring doesn’t’ sound “cute” anymore.

9) When you prefer an earthquake over meeting his/her family

10) When his/her touches, kisses and hugs prevent you from enjoying the movie

Then this is the right time for Ending Relationships