However, he never called again. Why?

I’m sure every woman has at least one story like this in her “little dating book”.
What happened after the first date? Was it a bad first date? Why didn’t he call?
1)      He was just relaxing on this date.

Some men just relax over a nice dinner and conversation and they don’t mean to turn this great time into something serious. Don’t get upset. If he said that there is no future, what would it look like? Count this as a new experience.
2)      You two have different “speeds.”

If you think that you have to date for three months (as your grandma taught your mom) and he asks “your place or mine” then you are on totally different pages.
3)      He got scared.

Scared of what? Well, just got scared. Feelings, responsibility, competition, or luck of them as well as your beauty or own sexual problems. Just you as “super woman” in his life can sound scary to him.
4)      You weren’t ethical enough.

You asked to go to a very expensive restaurant or were too curious about what car he drives (and he took a taxi). You laughed at him when he couldn’t use chopsticks or commented sarcastically on his mutual friends. Be careful, men are too sensitive.
5)      You talked too much about yourself.

He doesn’t need to know that your grandma got married five times, that your boss is a jerk, that your best friend dates a Chinese guy, and that your cat is about to give birth
6)      You were quiet as a fish.

Well, if it happened once, just forgive yourself, but if it’s your standard behavior…you have to see a therapist.

 
7)      He was a person who specializes on “tests.”
He is testing women just to prove to himself that not one woman deserves HIM (because he is a gift).
8)      You counted on a serious relationship with him.
Men are hunters, so as soon as they sense a trap, they disappear.
9)      You invaded his personal territory.
Examples: You sit too close, you went through his phone when he went to the bathroom, took his gold lighter without permission, asked “so what days do you go to the gym? Oh really? What time?” – this would be a major red light.
10)   You were bored, and he felt it.
11)   He got afraid of your position

– do you know that men between 30 and 40 years old think that the worst occupation for women are (hold tight) dentists, fitness instructors, executives in big companies, police officers and the leading one is… THERAPISTS (sad, huh).

 
12)   His mom didn’t like you

– if he took you to his mom, you gotta be happy that things didn’t work out.
13)   Your social status is not good enough for him.
14)   He couldn’t handle your social status.
15)   You didn’t try to impress him, but it was obvious that you are too much for him.
16)   Your date was in a wrong place.
17)   Your date happened at a wrong time.
18)   You were a “smart mouth.”
19)   You confessed that you are divorced and you have kids.
20)   You have different view points towards life.
21)   You implied that you had too many men.
22)   You started to make mutual plans.
 
23)   Your sense of humor was too much for him.
24)   You brought your friend to a date.
25)   You lied about yourself.
26)   You acted too sexy.
27)   You criticized yourself too much.
28)   Your tempers are different.
29)   You are not his type.
30)   You are not emotionally available.
31)   He is not emotionally available.
32)   It just didn’t work out –

 well, he lost your card, his phone got stolen, he went om a trip and got stuck there for 2 years. You went to have a lunch with a co-worker and he hugged you while HE drove by. He called you and your sister joked that you are getting married this weekend. Well, there are too many stories like this and when he didn’t call, we hope that he is really on number 32.

Question NOT to ask on the first date if you are looking forward to something serious:

1)    How much money do you make?
2)    What car do you drive?
3)    Do I look fat in this dress?
4)    Are you looking for a serious relationship or just fun?
5)    How many kids do you want to have?
6)    When was the last time you had sex?
7)    What does your medical record look like?
8)    Do you date other women?
9)    Do you like shopping?
10) Tell me about your ex.

Questions you SHOULD ask on the first date.

 
1)    What are your hobbies?
2)    Did the Lakers win yesterday?
3)    What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
4)    Do you like dark beer?
5)    Would you ever consider jumping with a parachute?
6)    What’s your favorite joke? (Please tell me)
7)    What’s your favorite band/movie?
8)    If you had unlimited possibilities what would you like to do?
9)    What’s the worst thing that can happen on the first date?
10) If you could have one date with any celebrity who would it be?

What are the most important qualities in men? Well, I’ve been told that the look is not important, money will not buy happiness, health is given by God, sense of humor is not primary for family life, age is just a number, and luck doesn’t exist.

However, after talking to hundreds of women, I’ve never heard that someone’s ideal man is ugly, poor, boring, old, and a sick loser. Every woman’s IDEAL MAN is good looking (preferably tall, dark, and handsome), successful (rich), healthy, young (meaning the same age or plus/minus 5 years). Also, a guy with a great sense of humor (or at least matching her’s).

Some qualities may be modified, but any modifications are based on the searcher’s (woman who is looking) self esteem. There is a proportion – the less self esteem, the more bad qualities might be accepted.

In my opinion each and every woman is unique and deserves to meet the best man. So, we’ll leave all loser material for someone else – let’s look for a good man.

What are women’s biggest mistakes at the activity called “finding a good man?”

I’m about to reveal the secret – GOOD MEN ARE NOT WHERE WE THINK THEY ARE.

Looking for men is not any different from any other marketing “niche market search”.

Recently my friend invited me to dinner at one of the hottest restaurants in LA. The dinner was great, the restaurant was elegant, everything was perfect, except…one little detail. There were very few single men, lots of couples, and tons and tons of single women who were gorgeous. Ladies were grouped by the “girls night out” principle.  But they hardly had any fun – they were looking around and scanning each male. It looked very sad.

Ladies, the biggest mistake would be looking for single men at an expensive restaurant at evening time.  Why? Because they are going out with someone, even though this “someone” might not be the significant one. Yes, I know women who manage to meet someone this way once in a while, but you have to be very brave, skilled, and bold. Plus, never do to people what you wish they would never do to you. Can you imaging going to a restaurant with the man of your dreams, and some other woman would be performing magic tricks to get your man’s attention?

If you would like to find wealthy good looking single men, there are

Three Top Spots where you can Find a Good Man.

SPOT #1

Place – Expensive restaurants during lunch hours – you can find a man there sitting with another man or by himself.

What to wear – you wear a nice, casual, business outfit (preferably a sexy skirt with a top and a jacket). You have to look classy enough for them to pay attention. A little notebook would be a great decoration.

What else? -  Have your “legend” prepared (for example, just had a meeting at the building next door). However, remember, if you think that a stock market is another place for organic food and marketing is another sexy Italian word, then stick to a different plan.

SPOT #2

Place – First or business class of an airplane. It’s a very pricey way, but the most effective, especially if you fly overseas. First of all, the plane is bigger, so the amount of travelers is greater as well and you have more time to locate and charm your “Mr. Right”.

What to wear – It doesn’t matter what your style is, you have to look CLASSY. If you look like a sexy hooker, then your chances are close to zero – not a single good man will want to have something more than “fun” with you.

What else? – Again, have your story ready. Don’t say that you bought 8 first class tickets to find your love. Don’t laugh, I personally know one woman who spent half her savings and her whole vacation time flying between Los Angeles and Chicago. Guess what? She met her dream man on flight # 6 at the moment when she lost all expectations. They got married within a year.

SPOT #3

Top sport clubs – excellent place. I hope you don’t think that only women are looking for men. Guess what? Men do too! If you are in good, normal or at least ok shape, consider it

What to wear – invest in a few good work-out outfits – colors that make you look good, designs that will show your best assets, make up (make it natural and almost invisible).

What else - If you are completely out of shape, spend a couple months eating right and exercising first. Also, you will have to really work out at the gym – which is great for you. A woman who sits at the juice bar for hours looks too suspicious.

The most important of all – Feel Good: like attracts like. Think about it just as another great day of your life with an excellent and entertaining adventure.

Dear Ladies, please let me know what do you think! I’m looking forward to hear from you, leave a comment!

HOW TO WEAR

The Little Black Dress

Has to cover your assets (you’ll have plenty of time to show them later).  Yes, ladies, remember mystery is the key. Make sure that if your dress is too short, it covers your top and preferably has sleeves. Leave all fancy cuts for special occasions.

Is not supposed to spark like Christmas tree toy.

Wear hills, but no open shoes with tights. Hills will make you look slimmer and your legs longer. Do not wear 8 inch hills – leave it either for pole dance class or for women who wear them as a uniform (you know who I’m talking about).

Wear one piece of jewelry. If you have huge diamonds – do not wear them till date number 5. Expensive jewelry usually scares men away.

Jeans and Top

Jeans are supposed to be your real, not your dream size – nothing can be unsexier than pieces of meat hanging from your waist line.

If jeans are pretty classy, your top can show some cleavage. Make sure that “some” do not look like the bikini top. You can always wear those to a club at your girls night out when you have no intention to start serious relationships.

Leave too ripped jeans for the beach, or hanging out with friends at the bar.

Hills are the way to go, but again, make sure that they look classy and haven’t been designed to go to a movie premier.

Dear Ladies, Please leave a comment and let me know what do you think! What First Date outfit worked for YOU?