After First Date – 32 Reasons Why He Didn’t Call
August 7, 2009 3 comments »
You just had a great date. There was a spark of chemistry, a great conversation, tons of compliments, and hints on many more great dates.
However, he never called again. Why?
I’m sure every woman has at least one story like this in her “little dating book”.
What happened after the first date? Was it a bad first date? Why didn’t he call?
1) He was just relaxing on this date.
Some men just relax over a nice dinner and conversation and they don’t mean to turn this great time into something serious. Don’t get upset. If he said that there is no future, what would it look like? Count this as a new experience.
2) You two have different “speeds.”
If you think that you have to date for three months (as your grandma taught your mom) and he asks “your place or mine” then you are on totally different pages.
3) He got scared.
Scared of what? Well, just got scared. Feelings, responsibility, competition, or luck of them as well as your beauty or own sexual problems. Just you as “super woman” in his life can sound scary to him.
4) You weren’t ethical enough.
You asked to go to a very expensive restaurant or were too curious about what car he drives (and he took a taxi). You laughed at him when he couldn’t use chopsticks or commented sarcastically on his mutual friends. Be careful, men are too sensitive.
5) You talked too much about yourself.
He doesn’t need to know that your grandma got married five times, that your boss is a jerk, that your best friend dates a Chinese guy, and that your cat is about to give birth
6) You were quiet as a fish.
Well, if it happened once, just forgive yourself, but if it’s your standard behavior…you have to see a therapist.
7) He was a person who specializes on “tests.”
He is testing women just to prove to himself that not one woman deserves HIM (because he is a gift).
8) You counted on a serious relationship with him.
Men are hunters, so as soon as they sense a trap, they disappear.
9) You invaded his personal territory.
Examples: You sit too close, you went through his phone when he went to the bathroom, took his gold lighter without permission, asked “so what days do you go to the gym? Oh really? What time?” – this would be a major red light.
10) You were bored, and he felt it.
11) He got afraid of your position
– do you know that men between 30 and 40 years old think that the worst occupation for women are (hold tight) dentists, fitness instructors, executives in big companies, police officers and the leading one is… THERAPISTS (sad, huh).
12) His mom didn’t like you
– if he took you to his mom, you gotta be happy that things didn’t work out.
13) Your social status is not good enough for him.
14) He couldn’t handle your social status.
15) You didn’t try to impress him, but it was obvious that you are too much for him.
16) Your date was in a wrong place.
17) Your date happened at a wrong time.
18) You were a “smart mouth.”
19) You confessed that you are divorced and you have kids.
20) You have different view points towards life.
21) You implied that you had too many men.
22) You started to make mutual plans.
23) Your sense of humor was too much for him.
24) You brought your friend to a date.
25) You lied about yourself.
26) You acted too sexy.
27) You criticized yourself too much.
28) Your tempers are different.
29) You are not his type.
30) You are not emotionally available.
31) He is not emotionally available.
32) It just didn’t work out –
well, he lost your card, his phone got stolen, he went om a trip and got stuck there for 2 years. You went to have a lunch with a co-worker and he hugged you while HE drove by. He called you and your sister joked that you are getting married this weekend. Well, there are too many stories like this and when he didn’t call, we hope that he is really on number 32.
Break Up Story + Break Up Advice
August 5, 2009 4 comments »
Dear Erica,
Here is my Break Up Story:
I’m 25 and my boyfriend, Sebastian, is 28. It’s been almost 5 months since the beginning…He never told me that he didn’t want to have a real relationships.
After a trip we took together, he started to feel distant in the beginning, but then the situation became worse. After I asked him if he has any feelings for me, he said that he definitely has some feelings, but he can’t say that he loves me the same way I love him. At all my “what happened” questions, his answer was “nothing”. I really wanted our relationship be as special as the beginning, but the situation became worse and worse.
On July 11th we had sex and then afterwards I asked him where our relationship is going, and he told me that he doesn’t want to commit. All he wanted was “friends with benefits”. I was in panic and felt terrible. He suggested for me to break up with him, but I told him that I need to think everything over. So we talked about things over and over, but our conversation went in the same direction; that now he was the one who needs to think. When he was leaving I asked him how long I should wait for his respond. “Three days” he told me.
All following days were filled with panic and fear…he took…nine days.
We went to the movies, he was distant, then I called him but he was even colder. Then I got sick and decided that if he wants to be with me, he needs to show his interest. He called me the next day, called me “honey and sweetie”, and got me more confused. The next day my friends insisted for me to call and he treated me like I don’t even exist. I decided to break up with him but my friends insisted for me to be patient and calm down.
Then he called me and asked if we could talk so we met up. He asked what I think about our relationship and I said that I’m the one who is waiting for the answer. He said that he wants to break up. Bottom line was that I’m a very special person, but he doesn’t want to hurt me and he does not know what happened. The conversation was long, but he asked if I think we still can see each other.
He told me that I stopped him from many bad habits (like drinking beer) but I ended up running out of his place in tears. I thought that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, but as soon as I got home I cancelled our relationship on Facebook and changed my profile. I felt that if I disappear from his life now, maybe we can be back in the future. Later on I noticed that he did the same to his Facebook – deleted our pictures and staff. I still don’t understand “what I could’ve possible done.”
Now, here are my questions:
Do you think we have a chance to be together later on?
ERICA: Clara, there are always chances, but you have to be honest with yourself. You’ve never had a relationship with Sebastian. There was “the spark” in the beginning, brief dating, and great sex. Later on Sebastian decided to be “friends with benefits”.
Now, what does this mean? Friends with benefits mean that a man has no feeling, but enjoys having sex. You can’t make a man feel something by asking him, pushing him, or confronting him. But you can attract him.
When you talk about “being together” what exactly do you mean? Sure, you have a chance to have sex again and again without any commitment from his side. Also, you might occasionally spent some “quality time”– when he is bored or has no one else on the pics.
Remember, “Friends with benefits” means NON EXCLUSIVE – means OTHER WOMEN.
As for real relationships…Sebastian is not the one who isn’t ready. You are the one who is not ready and not able to handle a real functional relationship.
Men want relationships with girls who are “prizes” for them. I’ll give you an example. You like a beautiful expensive bag at a fancy stores. You save up for this bag, think about it, go to see it many times, and eventually get it. How would you treat the bag? It would be precious, right?
Now imagine if you get to the store and you get this bag as a free gift. How valuable would it be to you? You’d start thinking that maybe that bag is out of date, or damaged. You won’t want it as bad anymore. Do you get my point?
Men want girls who are fun, independent, and free (mentally and spiritually). They want challenges, they want to chaise, hunt, and to go through difficulties. This is the way men are wired.
You do not have any chance to have any real relationships until you genuinely change. Think about what initially attracted him to you. Are you still the same? Are you still that fun girl who he used to have a great time with? The girl who he went after? Or did you turn into a needy, clingy girl who pressures him? Everyone wants to have a good time. And listening numerous times to “where does this go” is no fun for men.
However, there is one problem. For example, you decide to change yourself and your life and become a self confident and secure person who accepts other people the way they are without wanting to change them and you understand that each person has “personal borders” (and you definitely crossed Sebastian’s).
You’ll be able to make decisions without listening to your friends (by the way what made you listen to them? Are they absolutely happy in relationships?). Well, as soon as you’ll change, you won’t be interested in “Sebastian’s” type anymore. You’ll appreciate totally different guys.
Do you think he told me the truth about not wanting me completely out of his life?
ERICA: Yes, he told you the truth. But the reason why he wants to have you in his life is that by talking to you, seeing you, he wants to “control the situation”. Men like to be “in control”. This is another way to prove that he can do to you whatever he wants to do. It has nothing to do with feelings, emotions or desire to be with you. It’s all about HIM.
If you cut the communication completely – then you’ll be in control. He hasn’t been without you because you are always available. Let him spend time without you. Remember, men don’t understand words, they understand no contact.
What did I do wrong?
There is not “wrong” or “right”. There are some rules that lead to happy relationships. It’s like if you want to lose weight permanently, you have to eat right and exercise.
What can I do to feel as peaceful and as happy as before?
ERICA: In order to be happy with someone
1. you have to learn how to be totally happy by yourself. You are not in love, you are addicted do different emotions.
2. you have to learn recognize negative emotions: anger, fear, jealousy, anxiety etc.
3. you have to learn how to switch from negative to positive feelings
4. you have to learn about personal borders.
5. You have to realize that being with someone will not make you peaceful. Happiness and piece is inside of you.
Do you think I’m the problem, or I have a problem?
ERICA: You are NOT a problem. You are a great girl who wants to be happy with boyfriend. You do not have a problem. You have luck of life experience and knowledge of men’s psychology. You’ll be fine, one day you’ll be laughing remembering this.
Many years ago I’ve been told “Erica, if you take all your energy you spend on relationships and apply it to business, you’ll be very successful”. I did. I’m thankful to this person because he was absolutely right.
I really wanna be with him, how can I get my Sebastian back but not to suffer from the same situations as before?
ERICA: It’s another subject and will take long way to go and many books to read to learn how to do it.
First Date Questions
August 4, 2009 No comments »
Congratulations, he invited you out. This is your first date. You look polished and chic. You both feel a spark of chemistry. Before the first round of drinks gets to the table, you already imagine how cute your mutual kids will be. Did you invision your wedding dress and honeymoon as well? Wake up!
The first date is all about getting to know each other. You won’t move either if sex is your only mutual interest. Men DO want to have a great girlfriend, but in order to become that girlfriend he has to like your personality as well as your body.
Question NOT to ask on the first date if you are looking forward to something serious:
1) How much money do you make?
2) What car do you drive?
3) Do I look fat in this dress?
4) Are you looking for a serious relationship or just fun?
5) How many kids do you want to have?
6) When was the last time you had sex?
7) What does your medical record look like?
8) Do you date other women?
9) Do you like shopping?
10) Tell me about your ex.
Questions you SHOULD ask on the first date.
1) What are your hobbies?
2) Did the Lakers win yesterday?
3) What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
4) Do you like dark beer?
5) Would you ever consider jumping with a parachute?
6) What’s your favorite joke? (Please tell me)
7) What’s your favorite band/movie?
8) If you had unlimited possibilities what would you like to do?
9) What’s the worst thing that can happen on the first date?
10) If you could have one date with any celebrity who would it be?
$2.99 Takes for American Express to Screw a Great Customer
July 24, 2009 No comments »I’m off topic today, but here is my personal story.
I always wondered why when company wants to get money from you, they always have correct and complete information. All statements are delivered on time and customer service is excellent. But if YOU, AS A CUSTOMER need help, then they treat you as a criminal, lose your info and turn into robots.
My Amex was declined on gas station early Monday morning. As a perfect customer who uses Amex to pay for everything and then pays bills in full, I thought that maybe my card just got old and does not go through. Two hours later my dad called me from the grocery store completely ashamed. “I felt like a criminal with the full basket of food without ability to pay for it! What if I didn’t have cash on me?”
I ignored his words because I knew how great Amex was! Also, they sent me a new card on the mail! I couldn’t wait to activate it before taking clients out.
“Your account is cancelled and you have been reported to collection agency because of your debts” customer service rep with robot voice informed me.
“Whaaaaaat? I just paid two of my accounts in full! What happened? I was working hard on building my credit history” I was shocked.
“We don’t know m’am’, you have big debts on your account number three”
“But I have only two of them, I cancelled third one a year ago when they kept double charging me for my internet. They have done it for a few years. I called them many times, but they would do it again, so I cancelled this card” I was almost crying.
I asked for a supervisor who told me that she is absolutely unable to access my account and tell me what kind of damaging amount I owe. I wanted to know because it must have been terrible if it caused the cancellation of all my accounts. “We don’t know, M’am the only thing I can see that your account ends of xx002. M’aam we sent you XXX amount of letters and emails, but you never replied, we can’t help you at this time.”
I hang up, and logged in to my online account and saw the “secret info”. They didn’t cancel my card a year ago, they forgot. And yes, it was my fault I didn’t follow up. Then I changed my account info on GoDaddy.com but they kept charging this card…$2.99 per month. Amex added monthly late fees. The amount I was penalizing for was $113.00.
Yes, none of this was my fault. Yes, I should have called GoDaddy, then Amex and resolve the problem without paying. I’m single mom and each dollar matters to me as much as for American Express. But I decided that if I pay this $113.00 it will save my time and health. Human can’t win a Robot War.
This morning I called to collection agency. I paid them in two minutes. The Lady on the phone could not believe what happen. “Right, you pay thousands dollars to AMEX every month, it’s not true that Amex people didn’t know how much you’re owned.” She said that collection agency already sent me one letter. But they had wrong address, that’s why I didn’t receive it.
I checked all emails from Amex. They NEVER informed me about this problem and collection.
I understand that business is about making money. And AMEX is making money. But customers are humans and aren’t treating humans as humans would bring even more money for Amex? What do you think? I’m going to call in now to cancel all my cards with them. I don’t have a lot of friends, just a few thousands on Facebook, MySpace. Also, I have a few thousands of clients. I’ll make sure that they know the story and won’t get screwed the same way.
How Do I Look
1 comment »Scared by your own look
A woman who is totally happy with her look 24/7 does not exist. Time to time each woman doesn’t like her reflection at the mirror. However, if you are not happy all of the time your life turns into hell.
British publication Daily Mail held a unique experiment to find out how women diagnosed with “Dismorfobia”, a condition marked by excessive pre-occupation with an imaginary or minor defect in a facial feature or localized part of the body.
A photo session was a part of the project. Ladies were asked to comment on both pictures (normal one as well as a picture made by Photoshop based on how the woman sees herself).
1) Rachael Baughan, 27 director of modeling agency, the author of “The Bitterly Girl”
“Comparing those two pictures helps me a lot – it is like some sort of therapy. Like people who need to change their gender I feel like this body does not belong to me, but I don’t know how it’s supposed to look in reality.I started to have problems with accepting myself since I was 4. Kids teased me at school. I tried to cut my “fat” with the kitchen knife and then commit suicide.
My life changed 5 years ago when I got a job at sales and my mom and brother enrolled me to a beauty pageant called “Miss England”. I didn’t win, but spent a lot of time near beautiful girls on stage. I had a great sense of relief. I didn’t recover completely, but it gave me straights to move forward.”
2) Rebecca Owen, 42, social worker
“I don’t like pictures. I think that I look fat in both of them. My problem is that my face is fat even when I’m skinny. My face looks like a pancake. When my boyfriend saw my pictures he didn’t understand why I don’t like the original.
I understand that I’m not fat, but I see pieces of fat on my face and hands when I look in the mirror. I have been playing sports till 15 and then I was scared to get fat, so I got anorexia when I was 16. I got into the hospital every three years after that. When I turned 30 I became a social worker who helps people with psychological problems.
I started to make enough money, invest them in my appearance and started to gain weight. I started to see a therapist. I feel sorry that I don’t have kids and have no idea if I can have them. My fertility is low as a result of anorexia.”
3) Daniel Nalti, 27 sales manager
“The pics helped me to see the real me and understand that my nose is not that huge and my chin is not too long. My parents taught me not to think about my appearance – I was a boy in a skirt. Then they got a divorce and everything changed.
People think that all my problems are related to their divorce, but I wasn’t happy with myself from the first day. I started to wear clothes that cover me completely since I was 14 and used the cream that was developed for people with scars. I got diagnosed with “clinical depression”.
By the time I was 21 I learned to handle the situation and only by 25 I was diagnosed properly. Some people think that dismorfobia is desired to look perfect, but in reality it is a desire to look normal.”
4) Kathy Jones, 17, student of fashion institute
“I had been teased at school since I was 11 – kids told me that I look like an alien. I’ve never been photogenic. I don’t like both pics because I look funny.
I can’t explain what exactly I don’t like, I’m afraid that after my explanation all people will start noticing my problems as well. I started to become obsessed with my appearance since I was 13. I was nervous every time I had to look in the mirror.
I feel very sorry when I look at handicapped people with burned faces, but the truth is that I feel that I look worse. Some people think that I just try to get attention, but it’s not true. My mom’s friends say that I could’ve become a model – they don’t understand me at all. Only my boyfriend and best friends feel sorry for me.”
This is scary, isn’t it? What do you think?
After Break Up
July 22, 2009 2 comments »
“Never run after a bus or after a man because there will always be another one!”
The last “good bye” was said (or sobbed, screamed, etc.), now what?
I know exactly how you feel…I’ve been there and I pulled many young ladies out of there. I know what you want to do now, and ONLY if you want to get stuck in this terrible condition for a long time, can you cry, drink, eat comfort food, call up your “group of support from girlfriends, gay friends, and relatives” and listen to “I-told-you-he-is-a-jerk” opinions for days. Oh, romantic movies and music with antidepressants would complete the picture. And you can stop reading this post right here.
However, if you WOULD LIKE TO FEEL GREAT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE and move forward, you have to stick to the “I WILL BE THE HAPPIEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD” plan.
I always compare going through a break up with losing weight because it is easy to gain and absolutely hard to lose.
It’s easy to let yourself go and swim in love, and hard to accept the fact that it’s over. So, you should
1. Accept that “this is over”.
2. Realize that this is YOUR LIFE and YOUR LIFE is about YOUR HAPPINESS, and YOU ARE in charge of making yourself happy.
3. Stop going inside your head from picturing thousands of ways to murder your ex to imagining your three beautiful kids graduating from the college if you (didn’t do, didn’t say, didn’t want, or he didn’t do, didn’t say, didn’t ….)
4. Understand that like attracts like so if you are sad, angry, or jealous you’ll get more of the same, so you need to stick to something that makes you feel good.
5. Stop “spreading the dirt on the glass” – chewing the broken heart gum and talking to friends. You’ll have an aftertaste after those conversations anyways.
6. Know that it will take time to get over, and this is the perfect time for doing something good. Remember, behind every successful woman stays someone who has pissed her off.
7. Be familiar with the concept that it’s not a good idea to date someone else at this “recovery time”. You won’t meet the love of your life – just attract another sad individual who’d match your own feelings.
8. Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Yes, you lost your boyfriend/husband but some people lose their own lives, and people they love.
9. Figure out what you hated in your ex and what you hate in men in general. Write it down. Now based on what you’ve written write what you want. Isn’t this person is much better then your ex? Just wait, if you really want a person like this, you’ll attract him eventually.
10. Resize your ego. 99 percent of the break up is not about losing him but is about getting hurt. The bigger your ego, the longer the recovery.
Mature Woman
July 20, 2009 5 comments »
- A MATURE WOMAN is more honest. She’ll call you an idiot and jerk if you are the one…She is not scared to lose you as young woman is.
- A MATURE WOMAN can’t get pregnant unexpectedly and decide that one of two guys has to marry her immediately. If mature woman get pregnant, you’ll be the last one who’ll find out about it!
- A MATURE WOMAN can use red lipstick in the morning without looking like she just ate cherries
- A MATURE WOMAN will be expensive. Young woman can cost you 3 martinis at the bar.
- A MATURE WOMAN runs faster because her shoes are more comfy. She learned to invest in quality accessories.
- A MATURE WOMAN would never suspect that you “use” her…In reality she is the one who uses you
- A MATURE WOMAN will just pick up the phone, call you and ask when you are available. Young woman will be waiting by the phone….
- A MATURE WOMAN will introduce you to her girlfriends. Young woman will hide you from them because they might have some thoughts about……stealing you
- A MATURE WOMAN always has a great collection of underwear…Young women wear underwear very rarely…this fact excludes the possibility of striptease.
- A MATURE WOMAN has a great intuition…You don’t have to tell her about your affair on the side, she already knows it for some reasons
A MATURE WOMANis experienced and understands that you can’t always perform in bed after 10th drink …Young woman needs a while to realize that fact
- A MATURE WOMAN will never tell you that you “stole her best years” because somebody else already did it before you.
Marriage Horoscope
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Aries
An Aries turns on fast but turns off even faster. He is ready to move forward quickly. However, he does make mistakes in his choices because he is ruled by desires and not by reality. If he decides on something, he’ll move forward overcoming all obstacles. An Aries is self-willed, impulsive, and passionate. You can determine how serious he is based on his ability to destroy stereotypes described above.
Remember, An Aries will become more quiet and calm outside, more serious and practical in what he does, and more sensitive and nicer in communication. You’ll understand that “he is ready” if he becomes thoughtful as well as indifferent towards a loud kaleidoscope of social life.
The indication towards his serious intentions will be his conversations about real estate as well as grown ambitions. He will want to get promoted, create a new career, and become very successful. So if your “significant one” will pay less attention to you because he is too busy at work, everything is great. He didn’t fall out of love, he’s just thinking about a future family.
If all changes described above don’t happen, don’t get caught up in illusions. Move forward.
Taurus
A Taurus is stubborn, soft hearted, inert, and predictable. Laziness is combined with love for hard work. He is a sybarite and a dictator at the same time. He has a clear understanding about what kind of family and wife he must have.
You won’t believe it but you can judge his marital intentions by his unusual free-thinking as well as by the ease of making an important decision. A Taurus is ready to experiment. He’ll try to take initiative in his own hands. He’ll ask direct questions and he’ll prefer the same direct answers.
When he is “ready”, the amount of his emotions will increase and he’ll become braver and more energetic. The importance of your inner harmony and naturalness will increase dramatically. He’ll need to know how genuine your reactions to his words, actions, and feelings are. He’ll also turn selfish and require your love and attention like it’s you are after him, not vice versa.
If your situations match those written above, then he is not planning to be single anymore.
Gemini
He is brave, active, and rational. If he doesn’t understand something, he’ll take it easy. He is going to “walk on the edge” but his cold brain protects him from mistakes. He doesn’t really understand his woman’s feelings, but he can find the key to her heart with his eloquent, amazing, and twisted brain, and easiness in conversation.
He is very realistic when it comes to marriage. He counts all pros and cons and…gets tired of monotonous family life…in advance. He’ll first talk about marriage when he’ll decide to marry you. If he has different plans, he’ll avoid all marital conversations with virtuosity. You’ll understand that “he is ready” when he’ll offer to do something significant or take care of some part of your problems.
Pay attention to the following: If your man starts to look for a new high profile job or stay at work for crazy hours, it means that he is very serious. His personality will show pedantry in little details and his unreliability in big things. He’ll want to be caring, useful, and non replaceable for you. If your Gemini does not show all qualities described above, think about choosing a different Gemini.
Cancer
He is calm outside and emotional inside. A Cancer is sentimental and non talkative but he tries to hide it. It’s difficult to understand him but to x-ray his soul is even more difficult. He is vulnerable, jealous, and moody. He can tune to you and think with his heart and not his head.
You can judge his marital intentions by the following: the Cancer will become social and relaxed like he is going on a vacation with friends and not to his wedding with you. There is a possibility of snobbery and arrogance toward the people in your circle. Do not be upset, this is an exact sign that “you are the one”. In spite of his attention, peacefulness, and good manners, a Cancer can do outrageous things at times. He’d want to ruin traditions and rules while impressing you and your relatives.
If all changes described above are not at place, then Cancer is still thinking or he already decided everything for himself and you are not his choice.
Leo
A Leo is self completed, confident, and energetic. He loves to protect and make decisions for others. He is traditional enough with a low understanding of delicate moments and details in communication. He needs an explanation on those details.
A Leo’s family is his extension. If he decides to become head of the household, you’ll figure it out right away. He will stop being interested in an intense social life and he’ll lose interest in friends. The Leo will become more delicate, emotional, and erotic. “Intimate frivolity” (as funny it can sound) will show his readiness towards a serious step. You have to have some kind of energy that wraps you two up as an invisible cocoon. A Leo won’t really ask for your opinion here. He loves you and it’s enough.
If a Leo’s interests and contacts are too extensive and he is not more mysterious and delicate in his manners, you have to be satisfied with the position of the lover. You can be with him as long as you want, but let’s make it clear, your relationships for him is sports, flirting, and fun.
Virgo
A Virgo is practical, skeptical, and a realistic person who sees the reality with his sober eyes. He is critical, thrifty, and reserved. He loves to play by the rules. He is looking for a wife very carefully counting all pros and cons.
So when is our Virgo man ready to marry? He’ll become more active and different in his emotional desires and actions. The Virgo’s love for hard work will disappear and his desire to have adventures will increase. He’ll be attracted by new people and romantic events. He’ll start to behave the way a man usually behaves when he gets an initial attraction to a woman. It looks like his thoughts about having a family and all limitations that come along with marriage make him feel free. And this is the truth, this is exactly that way he feels. If your man offers that you travel to a different part of the world, it means that he is ready to marry you.
However, if your Virgo doesn’t behave crazy, his eyes do not spark romantically, and his discussion of your future together sounds too realistic and smart, it means that he does not want to wear a wedding ring and live happily ever after.
Libra
A Libra is easygoing, polite, and open-minded. He loves a beautiful life. His esthetic senses are well developed, but his personality is pretty tough. His opinion about himself is pretty high. He is emotionally detached from reality.
The Libra is the ONLY astrological sign whose actions can be read directly. You don’t have to think what he means. You’ll understand right away that your man is going to marry you because he’ll start to project your future together as well ass think about your career in terms of income as well as your “mutual nest”. A Virgo will be interested about the social life of his soul mate, her parent’s income, as well as other people’s opinion. He would wonder what other people think about them as a couple. He’ll behave like he is going to marry you based on his calculations, not feelings. And if it’s like this, it means he loves you dearly. Remember, marriage for him is the first of all changes of his social status and then everything else.
If your man is still happy and careless, if he loves your company to relax and have fun, I have to disappoint you. This is not husband material.
Scorpio
A Scorpio is strong willed on the inside and flexible on the outside. He is practical, determined, and perspicacious. He also loves money. He is jealous and passionate, sometime can be cheap. His inner life is full and intensive, but is hidden from outsiders. He loves to use mysterious ways. Don’t listen to what he says, just watch carefully what he does.
The sign of him being serious about marriage will be eccentric behavior and freedom when it comes to questions of marriage. If your Scorpio says that he’d never get married because the marriage will limit his freedom, you should know that he is “ready to get very serious”. A Scorpio will take all initiative. He’ll listen to your opinion and find out what you want, but he’ll do it his way, in a very reserved and a well calculated way. As soon as you show that he is totally independent, he’ll get going.
If your Scorpio is still mysterious, full of love, romantic, and gentle and if he swears that he’ll be with you forever, it is not true.
Sagittarius
A Sagittarius falls in love too often. He is not stable in his emotional attachments as well as self confident, active, honest, and optimistic. He appreciates personal freedom. He prefers not to get into marital activities, he can become a time-server. He is more of a hero-lover type. His understanding about marriage and family is very unclear.
He’ll swim down the stream following his feelings and trying to please his woman. He is such a knight. He would marry his woman following his emotional impression or because of some circumstances, for example, if she got pregnant. However, it will be something as inevitability. He is a pretty tough guy. There are no rules to predict what is going on in his head.
The most likely case is that he won’t describe himself or what he really wants. A Sagittarius has to really fall for his woman and she has to know what’s going on.
Capricorn
He is realistic, conservative, ambitious, serious, and hardworking. He doesn’t mind being alone because he is not bored with himself. He is reserved, patient, reliable, and very faithful. He gets younger with age.
A Capricorn’s family can represent his achievements in his life and his wife is his business card, the display of his success. He is very conservative. A Capricorn pans his life and acts consistently and methodically. If he decides to make an important step which will change his social status, it means that he thought many times before.
If a Capricorn is ready to marry, he will stop being too serious. He’ll start do impulsive things. It will add charm, but will make him a little rude. And if he looks too simple, you should know that he already calculated everything and made a conclusion toward marriage.
If your Capricorn didn’t change in his words and actions and if “he is on his own”, then he has other strategic plans and your spot is not the most important in his plans.
Aquarius
An Aquarius becomes predictable when he starts thinking about marriage. It’s important for him because he needs a stable place where he can return after his adventures. Therefore, if he started to count money and if he would buy something useless in front of you, then you can say that he is pretty serious.
Don’t try to isolate him from his friends. Put your energy in making your company very desirable to him.
You need to understand that winning this individualist is not easy. He wants to be with people and at the same time can’t stand limitations from any angle of society. If you can prove that your love and devotion is endless, he’ll get very serious. Don’t push him (the idea has to be well developed), but don’t let it go with the flow.
If you decided to do such a crazy thing as marry an Aquarius, invite him into a cozy place, with gourmet food, candlelight, and cosmic music where a computer and bookshelves will flash in the background.
Just look in his eyes and be quiet, let him do all the talking. However, if gets quiet and stays like this for an hour, it means that “marital thoughts” are in his head. If he comes again and he is speechless, then you can be sure that “the deal is done”.
If your Aquarius is talking non stop, asking you to participate in some project and points to your computer with a fork, drinking his wine from the tea cup or visits you with an army of his best friends, you can be sure that all efforts were useless – he is not thinking about marriage.
Be careful to not show your feelings too much. He is ready to be with a woman who respects his total freedom as well as be totally devoted to him. Only this kind of relationship he sees as normal. And do not try to tell him this, you have to prove everything by your actions.
From my own experience, an Aquarius is the easiest sign to get married to. He will talk for hours about his independence, but be ready to get married sooner than other signs. But remember, to be with him is not easy and if you are not ready to listen about “total freedom” for the rest of your life, run away as soon as possible.
Pieces
Your Pieces man belongs somewhere “out of this world” (if he’s a real pieces). He never says “no”, but “yes” does not sound either.
He tries to avoid an answer and let you think yourself. In case of something, he doesn’t say and doesn’t promise anything. It’s a very comfortable position for him. He is a thinker who is waiting for the beautiful future that will come itself. This future will do everything and appreciate all beauty of him. If you notice that your Pieces starts to talk clear, do not be shocked. If you need him (for some reason) hurry up. His desires change quickly. Therefore as soon as you get to a “specific” subject, ask directly but do not show any interest.
You can just express the fact and get confirmation. Don’t let a Pieces concentrate on the subject.
If you’ve heard “yes”, the Pieces will go with the flow even though it might’ve been your idea. Don’t be stupid, don’t show that you are too serious, turn everything into a joke. When he’ll realize how serious everything is, he’ll laugh himself.
If your Pieces will try to make you feel sorry for him or disappear after he’ll sense seriousness, it means that you have to “let him swim on his own”.
Break-Up Quotes
July 16, 2009 No comments »
A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for a good one. (Mae West)
No man is worth your tears, and when you find the man who is, he’ll never make you cry. (Anonymous )
Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. (Albert Einstein)
The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else. (Anonymous )
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be. (Anonymous )
Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime. (Better Davis)
Don’t let someone become your everything, because when they’re gone you have nothing! (Kenya Mitchell)
I dont know why they call it heartbreak. It feels like every part of my body is broken too. (Chloe Woodward)
Love is like a war:Easy to begin Hard to end! (ancient proverbs)
BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THEN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL (Hemmingway)
Love is blind — marriage is the eye-opener. (Pauline Thomason)
If a relationship is to evolve, it must go through a series of endings. (Lisa Moiyama)
Get Ex Back
No comments »All of my exes have wanted to get back with me. Half of them have wanted to jump into serious long term exclusive relationships after they had a chance to see me after the break up. Considering that in most cases the break up was their idea, the statistics are pretty good for coming up with the “get him back” formula.
Before I tell you my strategy on the “getting my ex back” subject I’d like to point out that I’m totally against getting back with your ex. Would you enjoy a fresh meal or last week’s leftovers? Would you like to wear a new dress or an old ripped dress with holes and stains? Exactly! But life is about choices and everyone creates her own happiness, so here is my strategy on how to get your ex back.
It doesn’t matter who initiates the break up. We (women) have an excellent intuition so we can sense the break up is in the air. So if you feel that you are very close, break up with him first. Best case scenario is breaking up as a lady: an angel smile, a quiet voice, respectful words, and a strong attitude.
“Ok, we broke up, what’s next”, you think.
Getting Your Ex Back
1. Completely disconnect him for 1-3 months. If the break up was civil and respectful, one month would be enough, if the break up was his idea, 2 to 3 months would be the best. Complete disconnect means meetings, calls, texts, emails, NOTHING. You don’t contact him and DO NOT answer if he contacts you. Plus, no explanations. If he contacts your friends, answers might be the most outrageous (high profile job in the moon, travels to Russia collecting songs, on FBI assignment)
2. Focus on your appearance (gym, healthy diet, image, style, etc). You have to do it for two reasons:
1) When we look good and like ourselves, we sparkle with strong, positive energy that attracts other people.
2) Remember, your look matters. I’m not talking about a total makeover (even though it’s sometimes necessary). When any man sees you, the first thing he notices is your LOOK. He’ll see your amazing personality, sense of humor, and beautiful soul down the road. The first impression is the strongest. Do you know that people subconsciously know either they like partners or not in the first 30 seconds of their first meeting?
3. Switch your focus from your ex:
1) Stop talking to him inside your head and imagine different scripts of your future relationship.
2) Control your thinking about him (yes, rule of 100: 100 times you acknowledge that you think about him and stop, just think of something else). If something reminds you of him it’s good. It will help you practice more. Nobody said that victory is easy.
4. Focus on your professional side (do something new at work, start a little side business, etc.) Men DO love accomplished women and if some of them don’t it means that they are simply insecure about themselves.
5. Get out and see other people (just make sure that it is NOT another date) Remember, you are not out fishing. You are out to watch the fish.
You have to follow those rules till you get out of your crazy addictive thoughts and feelings about your EX. Your feelings must be sweet, warm and fuzzy. You have to feel positive about yourself as well.
Warning: Like attracts Like. If you contact your ex in any negative state of mind (angry, sad, desperate, needy, depressed) you’ll get a negative result.
Now, when you are ready you can contact him. What to do after that:
1. Make ALL your calls less than 5 minutes, your coffee meetings less than 30 minutes, lunches less than one hour, and dinners less than 1.5 hours. Do you know the sense of diet when it’s always not enough food makes yourself his biggest craving?
2. Accept his attempts to contact you but make yourself unavailable 90% of the time. Decline in the politest way possible with “I’d love to but I already made plans”
3. Let him hunt. Men are hunters. The more tricks you’ll come up with, the more successful you’ll end up.
4. Avoid sex for at least 10 dates.
5. Think what kind of mistakes you’ve done since you’ve met him and do not repeat those mistakes.
6. See him ONLY when you feel positive.
Enjoy, date him like you never have before!
Love and Relationships Jokes
July 14, 2009 No comments »
- A man and his wife, now in their 60’s, were celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. On their special day a good fairy came to them and said that because they had been so good that each one of them could have one wish.The wife wished for a trip around the world with her husband. Whoosh! Immediately she had airline/cruise tickets in her hands.
The man wished for a female companion 30 years younger…
Whoosh…immediately he turned ninety!!!
Gotta love that fairy
- Q: Why do little boys whine?A: They are practicing to be men.
- Q: What does it mean when a man is in your bed gasping for breath and calling your name?A: You did not hold the pillow down long enough.
- She told him, “Tomorrow morning, I expect to find a gift in the driveway that goes from 0 to 200 in less then 6 seconds AND IT BETTER BE THERE!!”The next morning Ed got up early and left for work. When his wife woke up she looked out the window and sure enough there was a box gift-wrapped in the middle of the driveway. Confused, the wife put on her robe and ran out to the driveway, and brought the box back in the house.
She opened it and found a brand new bathroom scale. Ed has been missing since Friday…
- Q: What do you call a handcuffed man?A: Trustworthy.
- One day my housework-challenged boyfriend decided to wash his sweat-shirt. Seconds after he stepped into the laundry room, he shouted to me, “What setting do I use on the washing machine?”
“It depends,” I replied. “What does it say on your shirt?”
He yelled back, “University of Oklahoma.”
And they say blondes are dumb…
- A couple is lying in bed.
The man says, “I am going to make you the happiest woman in the world.”
The woman replies, “I’ll miss you…”
- “It’s just too hot to wear clothes today,” Jack says as he stepped out of the shower, “Honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?”
“Probably that I married you for your money,” she replied.
- Shall we try swapping positions tonight?
She said – That’s a good idea… you stand by the ironing board while I sit on the sofa and fart.
How To Be Happy or Funny Story + 5 Rules of Happiness
No comments »5 RULES TO FEEL HAPPY
1. Happiness in not somewhere – it’s INSIDE of US
2. Nobody has a license to judge, so if you know that a person is different from you – do not share the company
3. Learn to accept people for who they are – fish won’t fly and birds won’t swim
4. If you get angry from what other people do it means that your personal boundaries have “holes” and you need to work on yourself
5. Don’t try to change the world – many people failed doing it. Just enjoy every minute of your life!
DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE PEOPLE. FISH WON’T FLY AND BIRD WON’T SWIM
IF THE FISH AND THE BIRD DECIDE TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER, THAT’S WHAT WOULD POSSIBLY HAPPEN.
Imagine for a second that at the global economy crisis you were given the following for FREE:a 7 day vacation, two first class tickets from LA to Miami, a luxury condo with a 360 degree view (100 feet from the ocean) with more than an Olympic size pool, a brand new convertible Mercedes, and $2000 cash. Sounds like a fairytale, doesn’t it? Again, everything is free. What can possibly prevent two beautiful, young women who were friends for 7 years from being happy at this paradise? Here is the story.
My friends Amanda and Eva are my dear friends. They’ve been next door neighbors at a Hollywood apartment building for the last 7 years. Amanda has a dear friend who happens to make multimillion fortunes after many years of cracking the “success code”. He doesn’t have family and enjoys sharing his wealth with his friends. So, he decided to send Amanda and Eve to a vacation after they finished their first year at the nursing school. They were exhausted studying full time and working, so Mr. Million decided to surprise them.
So, for the first three days I haven’t heard from them. I decided that two beautiful single ladies living luxury life in Miami would be too busy enjoying life. Then Eve called…”I hate Miami” were her first words following by sobbing. After that I started to receive daily Eve updates about how two poor girls suffered. Knowing that each story has two sides, I waited till they get back and listened to Amanda. As my wise dad says “every man has his own truth”.
Are you ready to listen to their problems? Here we go!
Eve didn’t wax her bikini and legs because she was too busy saying bye to her “boyfriend” (the “boyfriend” never admitted this official title and said that he would never marry her), Amanda got pissed that Eve looks hairy on a beach full of handsome rich men. She asked how Eve could possibly be with her “boyfriend” if her “bikini curves are that long”? Eve wanted to take the bus and look for the wax salon, Amanda was afraid that Eve’ll get lost.
Eve’s one swimsuit broke and she started to look for threads at Mr. Millionaire’s condo, and drove Amanda crazy when she didn’t find them. “Mr. Millionaire DOES NOT sew in his spare time” yelled Amanda.
Of course Amanda found out that it was Eve’s favorite swimsuit that she bought overseas 15 years ago and not one swimsuit fit her since…Her body and feet are so unique that it’s hard to find cloths.
Amanda wanted to go to the most expensive restaurants and Eve wanted to save each cent of Mr. Million’s money in order to pay her bills at home so she suggested “Subway”, Eve needed to eat huge bowl of ice cream every day and Amanda wanted to visit Miami trendy bars.
Eve refused to use sunscreen and Amanda got pissed because she knew that the next day Eve would be complaining. Amanda wanted to meet new people, and Eve said that she doesn’t want to talk to strange men because she is in love with her “boyfriend”. Eve required 17 hours of beauty sleep and Amanda needed to exercise.
This list can go on and on.
So each of them called me and told me what happened asking for MY OPINION. Well, here it is
1) If it was Ms. Selfish of 2009, they both would share 1st place
2) They both had their “their own truth” and I can understand both of them…except how they didn’t have any fun
3) IF THE FISH AND THE BIRD DECIDE TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER, THAT’S WHAT WOULD POSSIBLY HAPPEN.
Love Quotes
July 13, 2009 1 comment »
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’ re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU… The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her…
(Unknown)
We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.
(Unknown)
I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
(Roy Croft)
If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back theyd never ask you to.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
Mother Teresa
Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves.
Henri Frederic Amiel
Just because somebody doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
Unknown
True love never dies, even if you have found a new love, the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life.
Unknown
Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
Elizabeth Browning
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4
Bible
10 Signs that Ending Relationships is a GREAT IDEA
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1) When you say “I love you, but I’m not in love” and you actually mean “I don’t want to hurt you, but if I could wake up tomorrow and instead of you see somebody who would make my heart jump”
2) When you don’t care if your legs are shaved, nails are done and roots are colored before your date.
3) When you envy your single girlfriend (friend) when she/ he is getting ready for the “girls/ boys night out”
4) When while telling your best friend about yesterday’s “romantic dinner” you spent 98% of the time describing the menu.
5) When sex can be easily substituted with gym workout (and especially with a cute instructor)
6) When 8 times out of 10 you let the voice mail to pick up
7) When you sit with him/her, imagine that him/her, you and your mutual baby sits with you and you feel claustrophobic and depressed.
When his snoring doesn’t’ sound “cute” anymore.
9) When you prefer an earthquake over meeting his/her family
10) When his/her touches, kisses and hugs prevent you from enjoying the movie
Then this is the right time for Ending Relationships
Find A Good Man
July 12, 2009 2 comments »How would you find a good man? There is Men Search 101. Lesson 1: Where Great men are? The most common woman-made mistake – Revealing the Secret.
What are the most important qualities in men? Well, I’ve been told that the look is not important, money will not buy happiness, health is given by God, sense of humor is not primary for family life, age is just a number, and luck doesn’t exist.
However, after talking to hundreds of women, I’ve never heard that someone’s ideal man is ugly, poor, boring, old, and a sick loser. Every woman’s IDEAL MAN is good looking (preferably tall, dark, and handsome), successful (rich), healthy, young (meaning the same age or plus/minus 5 years). Also, a guy with a great sense of humor (or at least matching her’s).
Some qualities may be modified, but any modifications are based on the searcher’s (woman who is looking) self esteem. There is a proportion – the less self esteem, the more bad qualities might be accepted.
In my opinion each and every woman is unique and deserves to meet the best man. So, we’ll leave all loser material for someone else – let’s look for a good man.
What are women’s biggest mistakes at the activity called “finding a good man?”
I’m about to reveal the secret – GOOD MEN ARE NOT WHERE WE THINK THEY ARE.
Looking for men is not any different from any other marketing “niche market search”.
Recently my friend invited me to dinner at one of the hottest restaurants in LA. The dinner was great, the restaurant was elegant, everything was perfect, except…one little detail. There were very few single men, lots of couples, and tons and tons of single women who were gorgeous. Ladies were grouped by the “girls night out” principle. But they hardly had any fun – they were looking around and scanning each male. It looked very sad.
Ladies, the biggest mistake would be looking for single men at an expensive restaurant at evening time. Why? Because they are going out with someone, even though this “someone” might not be the significant one. Yes, I know women who manage to meet someone this way once in a while, but you have to be very brave, skilled, and bold. Plus, never do to people what you wish they would never do to you. Can you imaging going to a restaurant with the man of your dreams, and some other woman would be performing magic tricks to get your man’s attention?
If you would like to find wealthy good looking single men, there are
Three Top Spots where you can Find a Good Man.
SPOT #1
Place – Expensive restaurants during lunch hours – you can find a man there sitting with another man or by himself.
What to wear – you wear a nice, casual, business outfit (preferably a sexy skirt with a top and a jacket). You have to look classy enough for them to pay attention. A little notebook would be a great decoration.
What else? - Have your “legend” prepared (for example, just had a meeting at the building next door). However, remember, if you think that a stock market is another place for organic food and marketing is another sexy Italian word, then stick to a different plan.
SPOT #2
Place – First or business class of an airplane. It’s a very pricey way, but the most effective, especially if you fly overseas. First of all, the plane is bigger, so the amount of travelers is greater as well and you have more time to locate and charm your “Mr. Right”.
What to wear – It doesn’t matter what your style is, you have to look CLASSY. If you look like a sexy hooker, then your chances are close to zero – not a single good man will want to have something more than “fun” with you.
What else? – Again, have your story ready. Don’t say that you bought 8 first class tickets to find your love. Don’t laugh, I personally know one woman who spent half her savings and her whole vacation time flying between Los Angeles and Chicago. Guess what? She met her dream man on flight # 6 at the moment when she lost all expectations. They got married within a year.
SPOT #3
Top sport clubs – excellent place. I hope you don’t think that only women are looking for men. Guess what? Men do too! If you are in good, normal or at least ok shape, consider it
What to wear – invest in a few good work-out outfits – colors that make you look good, designs that will show your best assets, make up (make it natural and almost invisible).
What else - If you are completely out of shape, spend a couple months eating right and exercising first. Also, you will have to really work out at the gym – which is great for you. A woman who sits at the juice bar for hours looks too suspicious.
The most important of all – Feel Good: like attracts like. Think about it just as another great day of your life with an excellent and entertaining adventure.
Dear Ladies, please let me know what do you think! I’m looking forward to hear from you, leave a comment!
Mend Broken Heart
July 10, 2009 No comments »Remember, YOUR HEART IS AS BROKEN AS YOU LET IT BE!
Have you ever thought about what EXACTLY “Mending a Broken Heart” means?
It’s very simpe. Think about what healing a broken leg means. Does it mean you can run again, wear beautiful hills, and have pedi with flowers? You don’t have to take painkilles, use a walker, and feel bad. You are almost there. This would be a RESULT of healing your broken leg. What would the processe? Well, to visit the doctor, place a cast, go through a healing rotine, and then start walking…slow, then faster, and only then run, dance in hills, and and wear the most seductive toe designs.
The same principles apply to mending a broken heart. Do you want to feel happy, enjoy every minute of your life, forget about a painful experience, meet your true love, and live happily ever after? Those are RESULTS. But in order to get your results, you have to go through the PROCESS of Mending a Broken Heart.
What needs to be done in order to Mend a Broken Heart?
1) You have to realize that you REALLY want to mend your broken heart. Do not smile sarcastically – I know people who just enjoy swimming in their misery because they get tons of attention this way. Their frends and family suddenly call them more often, bring them gifts, take them out, etc. As a result, a heart-broken person suddenly gets showered with attention and even though she says that she “wants to get over it”, subconciosly she does everything to stay where she is.
2) You have to accept the fact that healing your broken heart is a process. It won’t happen overnight and will require your own work. You can have all the guidance in the world, but you have to do your work yourself. It’s like losing weight. You have to hire a personal trainer and a nutritionist, but YOU are the one who has to go on a diet and exercise.
3) You have to stop listening to “experts” who suggests that giving yourself a little time to cry, miss your ex, and eat comfort food for a while is ok. They use this trick to keep your attention because it will make you feel not guilty as well as give you an extra excuse to keep waisting your time.
4) You have to stop discussing your break up with friends and family because it brings you back to negative mood.
5) You have to stop doing everything that makes you think about your former love; watch love movies, listen to romantic music etc. You should figure out what brings you positive emotions and stick to this. If it’s comedy movies – watch them every day.
6) And the most important thing you have to understand is like attracts like – in order for you to get positive events in your life you have to find positive things in EVERYTHING that is going on in your life as well as in EVERYBODY who surrounds you. You have to accept the world the way it is and stop willing to change it.
I went through series of break ups till I figured out the formula that really works but the most significant case of broken heart took about 3 years to heal. Now two weeks is enough to move forward and accept the situation as a great experience. Remember, the more positive you will be, the better surprises life will bring to you. And guess what? The person who broke your heart is not your true love, he is just “training equipment” that you used in order to meet YOUR REAL TRUE LOVE.
First Date Wear – DOs and DON’Ts
No comments »Dear Ladies,
Today I’m going to talk about the first date at a restaurant where he invited you for dinner.
Have you ever wondered why he didn’t call after your first date? Especially when you ended up almost having sex in the car? Well, the good news is that there is always another time, another date, or another man. Anyways, I suggest not to worry. This is life and life is about lessons. I figured out the “perfect first date outfit” by the long way of trial and errors (and I’m talking about my own errors as well as my friends and clients).
Don’t get me wrong, the first date is not about what you wear – it’s about how do you feel, behave, and talk. It’s about chemistry and energy. However, your look IS important because chemistry is partially based on your look. When a man says that he’s attracted to your beautiful soul and kind heart, I hardly doubt that your heart is inside of a 500 pound tattooed body with a face full of wrinkles and pimples.
OK, back to the first date. If he invites you to the restaurant, I suggest two main choices. Let me explain why. There are two main winning looks – classy and trendy (I hope you understand that being classy can be even more sexier than anything else). Even if you meet a 21 year old guy, trust me, if he will see you looking Classy Chik, he will fall for you right away.
OK, back to our First Date Outfit
1) If the restaurant (Lounge) is upscale, wear a little black dress.
2) If the restaurant is not that trendy and expensive, nice jeans with a classy top are a great idea.
HOW TO WEAR
The Little Black Dress
Has to cover your assets (you’ll have plenty of time to show them later). Yes, ladies, remember mystery is the key. Make sure that if your dress is too short, it covers your top and preferably has sleeves. Leave all fancy cuts for special occasions.
Is not supposed to spark like Christmas tree toy.
Wear hills, but no open shoes with tights. Hills will make you look slimmer and your legs longer. Do not wear 8 inch hills – leave it either for pole dance class or for women who wear them as a uniform (you know who I’m talking about).
Wear one piece of jewelry. If you have huge diamonds – do not wear them till date number 5. Expensive jewelry usually scares men away.
Jeans and Top
Jeans are supposed to be your real, not your dream size – nothing can be unsexier than pieces of meat hanging from your waist line.
If jeans are pretty classy, your top can show some cleavage. Make sure that “some” do not look like the bikini top. You can always wear those to a club at your girls night out when you have no intention to start serious relationships.
Leave too ripped jeans for the beach, or hanging out with friends at the bar.
Hills are the way to go, but again, make sure that they look classy and haven’t been designed to go to a movie premier.
Dear Ladies, Please leave a comment and let me know what do you think! What First Date outfit worked for YOU?
How to Break Up
No comments »There are two view points on how to break up: from the person who initiates the break up and from the person who is dumped. Doesn’t matter which side you were…because a break up is…Great!
Reasons why a Break Up is a good thing:
1) Do you like traveling? Who doesn’t? You can see your break up as an opportunity to travel in your life – you’ll see new people, new opportunities, and new places. If your relationships are broken – look at them as a dirty, neglected house you would like to renovate.
2) Even if you are the most gorgeous woman at the world – there is always field for improvement. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who loves herself. The break up period is the best time to fall in love with yourself and enjoy your freedom.
3) A Break up is not an end – it’s a new beginning. But it’s a beginning of something better. Look at the break up like pulling wisdom teeth – you will be scared to do it, then you’ll feel terrible after the procedure, but eventually you’ll feel great and look better.
Now, let’s get back on “How To Break Up”
If the break up is HIS idea
1) Break up like a Lady – do not raise your voice, cry, pull out your gun, or throw your favorite china at him – he doesn’t deserve it.
2) Just look at him, give the best Hollywood smile you can imagine and say “Thank you, it’s a great idea, I was thinking the same”.
3) Then Leave with the happiest look at your face.
4) I do not suggest to cry, drink, eat all your ice cream and chocolate, send press release to all friends, family members, etc. You can do some of that but very quickly – you will have better things to do shortly.
5) Commit to not answering his calls, emails, etc. for one month (if you commit for more – you’ll fail, I’ll explain to you later why it’s important)
If the break up is YOUR idea:
1) Do not break up with him via text message or email – if you had any sort of relationship, then he deserves at least a phone call.
2) Do not go into long explanations and give multiple reasons – just say “unfortunately, at this stage of my life I cannot be your girlfriend.”
3) Do not feel guilty – you have only one life and can spend it the way you want.
4) Do not tell him “let’s be friends” because he will “agree” with a hidden thought that you’ll come back.
5) Do not agree on “good bye sex.”
Aries Love & Sex Horoscope
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Aries is a romantic rapist. All initiatives belong to him even if the Aries is woman. Aries doesn’t accept any rejection, that’s why it’s always better to say “yes” right away. That way there is at least a chance to get pleasure.
Otherwise, he’ll be hitting on you so persistently and passionately that you’ll agree anyways, at least because you will not want listen to his singing at 3am as well as watch your entrance be blocked with tons of flowers.
If a woman is an Aries, then you are at risk of getting text messages all night long. You can also find her in the morning near your entrance with a very sweet offer to see sunrise together.
If you hear that your neighbors just broke their bed…you can be sure that one of the lovers is an Aries.
However, the Aries is not the most sophisticated one. His temper takes over, the bed breaks, and everything is over in 10 minutes in the best case scenario. But it’s worth it!
It is not complicated to turn an Aries on – he’ll do it before you’ll think about it. That’s why you should be ready that your Aries partner might want to have sex anywhere – on the roof, car, bench, elevator, pool, etc. You won’t scare him with damage, especially if you’ll be the one damaged. Therefore, you have to be the one who needs to think about your own safety and comfort because an Aries can hardly think about something like this. He will be very surprised later on when he’ll find a huge bruise on his leg.
Taurus Love & Sex Horoscope
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The Taurus can be named a champion if it goes to twisting your mind. Therefore, if your mind and emotions are not very strong and well developed, I suggest to run away till it’ll be too late. You will need to have unlimited patience to get into a Taurus heart. If you visit a Taurus with sex on your mind, without a doubt, you won’t get into his bed soon enough.
First of all, gourmet food and expensive wines will be served (depends on Taurus’ gender), then a poem will be read (perhaps written by the Taurus) your dress/shirt will be ironed, your favorite music will be played (along with smart music theory comments), philosophy and psychology will be discussed, etc.
Anyways, you have to cut this fairytale exactly at the moment that you can’t wait anymore, and move the Taurus towards the bed. This is the only scenario. The Taurus will pretend to be very offended, however, deep inside the Taurus will be totally thankful because the Taurus can’t really lead in situations like that…
However, at this point your sufferings are just about to begin because a Taurus has huge trust issues. As soon as you get closer, the Taurus will become very suspicious and as a result you will have to go through many tests in order to get TT – Taurus Trust.
Anyway, Tauruses are like safe deposits with multiple level protection. As soon as you open one door, you’ll see another one. However, if you don’t like easy finds, you are on the right way. And the prize will be dramatically impressive. Tauruses can make love for hours and be extremely creative and sophisticated.
Gemini Love & Sex Horoscope
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The Gemini is a sexual dreamer with a great ability to disappear. The Gemini can tell you a great fairytale about his sexuality and your future relationships. But when it will come to real business, you’ll be very surprised about the reality. The Gemini are famous to turn women on by talking to them, however, some Gemini can totally lose interest during the process.
For example, while in bed with you, he’ll get some other genius idea and he absolutely can tell you that sex is not only the interesting activity. There are many other great activities and will run to do them right away. The Gemini can have sex out of curiosity as well as out of friendship. The phrase “sex is not a reason to get really familiar” belongs to the Gemini.
If you get lucky enough to drag the Gemini into a stable relationship, it doesn’t matter that you’ll have sex on totally regular basis. You have to catch “the moment of his inspiration” and use it to your advantage. And you have to do it as fast as you can because your Gemini can get distracted or bored. The Gemini have another huge weakness. They talk too much. Even during the sex. And you are lucky if they will talk about sex during sex. Sometimes they can tell you about the latest software programs or new novels. The most sensitive Gemini’s erogenous zone is located in his head. Most of the time, this zone is not connected to their bodies.
However, if you have fun with your Gemini, don’t stop. You can constantly feed his “idea of having sex”. The most important thing is to not stop. Gemini are fun, sweet, and entertaining.
Cancer Love & Sex Horoscope
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Cancer is a delicate ….proprietor. You will belong to him and to him ONLY! Try to get distracted by someone else just for one second! He will become so offended, that it will take weeks to convince him that you are totally loyal and faithful, and he is the only one subject of your interest. If you decide that you would like to have sex with a Cancer then you have to accept megabytes of his care. Try to look to a different direction and you’ll see many new sides of the Cancer – from tears to long and consistent silence.
Even the fact that your Cancer is the only object of your interest will not help. He won’t believe that you love him and looked at someone else’s direction just out of curiosity. You almost have to hit your head against the wall in order to get his attention back. However, your public penance might not even work in some complicated situations.
Bravery is not on the top of the Cancer’s “great qualities” list. Sometimes he even might seem too cold. Cancers have very rich and wild imaginations, however, they are not in a hurry to execute their fantasies in real life because they are not sure if they will be understood. A Cancer can check out his partner for months – they will play, give some hints, and then quickly disappear till your next assault.
If you deal with Cancer men, then his way of being “too slow and too much of a gentlemen” will drive you totally crazy. As a result you might want to rape him very cruelly (especially if you are an Aries).
There is only one way to have great sex with a Cancer – you have to pin and twist his emotions. However, think twice before doing it. Stop and think again if you would like to be serious with your Cancer. Remember, Cancers are also selfish, and the strongest love they can feel to one person and one person only – the Cancer Himself!
If the Cancer decides to catch you with his chela, then you can tear him off only with pieces of your own meat. However, if he is serious about being with you and you love him as well, then your meat will stay in your body and your partner will be faithful, secure, and delicate.
Leo Love & Sex Horoscope
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The Leo is…a naive heart breaker. From the first glance he seems to be such a player, or she looks like a femme fatale. He or she seems to be absolutely unapproachable. However, the Leo wants to love and be loved as no one else. He especially wants to be loved. If you present your fairytale as a great love story, filled with admiration, then your deal is almost closed.
If you don’t scratch his enormous ego, then fatal love might even be unnecessary ingredient. The sincere admiration would be the ticket to paradise. The name of this ticket is “sex with a Leo”. If you can’t help but want your Leo desperately, then you have to fit the Leo’s image. The image your Leo’s surrounding requires.
God forbid your suit will represent the wrong style and your dress will not be trendy enough. The Leo will never forgive that kind of betrayal.
Therefore, you have to do your homework in advance: check out what is cool in your Leo’s circle. If you date a Leo, you won’t avoid going to fine restaurants, clubs, opera, & concerts. If you are not a very social person and you fall for a Leo, then you not only have to handle an extreme social life, but pretend that this is the biggest joy you’ve ever had. This is the only script that can show the way to the Leo’s bedroom. The Leo does everything on a grand scale. His slogan is “Only the Queen deserves to be loved, only a million can be stolen.” If you are not a queen or a million, then a Leo simply won’t notice you. That’s why you have to be a firework, especially at bed.
Virgo Love & Sex Horoscope
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The majority of sado-masochists are breaded by the Virgo sign. A sweet, nice girl who seems to be an angel might be a hidden pervert who would tie you to the bed and whip you with a lash or a man with a look of a conservative school teacher can be a fetishist who would wear half of your lingerie so often that you won’t have enough. If his/her fantasies are just fantasies…sometimes it would drive you so crazy that you’d prefer to be whipped.
Twisting someone else’s mind is the best entertainment for both Virgo’s genders. If you are a simple and down to earth person think twice if you want your mind to be twisted by a complicated Virgo. The problem is that Virgos are those heartbreakers and femme fatales (and not Leos as everyone else thinks)
The combination of the pure calculation, the external icy look, and the internal fire and curiosity to everything including sex makes Virgos irresistible in sexual games.
Again, everything is very complicated when it comes to dating Virgos. Some of them can be passionate about flirting and playing games, but the most important sexual moment can remain as cold as a fish because the Virgo is a mind twister.
One more thing – Virgos might be too persistent in some of their desires; for example they can build relationships using their own script. You won’t change a Virgo, well, love is blind….
Libra Love & Sex Horoscope
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It’s hard to figure out what’s going on with the Libra. Even Libras have no idea themselves. They usually balance between two totally opposite sides such as partnership and permanent independence. Partnership helps them balance their inner word, but they are absolutely independent.
Independence helps them to not “stick completely”. That’s why Libras always try to answer the question “do I really need it?” inside their minds. The Libra is the top rated sign who gets totally in love and sex addicted to their partners.
Libras love to get addicted to someone and then fight this addiction. Libras behave the same way in sex – do not be surprised when you partner who cared about you so much yesterday will turn into selfish jerk. What did you expect? Libras can forget about everything trying to please you and then they would remember that they are the center of the Universe and the situation turns upside down. To get a Libra to date you is not a super achievement, it’s not that complicated.
To make long story short, it is very complicated to figure out what’s going on with a libra because this sign is one of the most unpredictable.
Diplomacy is the Libra’s main quality. They try to build up harmony so much that sometimes they forger that feelings & emotions can be very useful in sex. If you want to be with a Libra, get him “down to earth” & keep him very tight in this position – there is a good chance that the Libra will get used to it.
Scorpio Love & Sex Horoscope
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The Scorpio is the most sex driven sign from all twelve. If the subject of your interest is a Scorpio, you should go to your physician and check your health condition because your sexual life will be like a constant and intense fireworks. If you want something calm and quiet instead, the Scorpio is not your kind of partner.
A Scorpio will be ready for you anytime, anywhere. Of course he’ll take some breaks for lunch, work, sport, and other necessary activities. A Scorpio would have the wildest fantasies that he needs to implement right away. If your Scorpio is not a pervert, then he is not a real Scorpio or he just hasn’t been educated much.
You have two choices in this situation. You can educate your Scorpio yourself and die in bed with him because the chances are that he’ll leave bed soon are very slim or you can pass on the educational process and live a long but boring life.
Scorpios are the most amazing, sexual, and intense sign. However, not everyone can handle their sarcasm and whims. The Scorpio is the one who you most likely won’t resist sex with on the first date.
Sagittarius Love & Sex Horoscope
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A Sagittarius can be described as a wise experimenter. If you are shy or non experienced then he’d be your ideal partner because Sagittariuses love teaching. They love to teach and increase someone’s self esteem.
Just make sure that your Sagittarius won’t get too excited and run away happy and teach the whole world because this can happen very easily. However, the good news is that he will slow down with age. If you don’t like to experiment, then stay away because the Sagittarius loves to study new things.
If you are not ready to start practical kama sutra lessons along with an assortment of sex toys, then leave the room right away.
A Sagittarius usually will not bother to ask you for your opinion about an experiment because he already knows what’s better for you.
The funniest thing is that he might be right. However, if you are not ready to accept his leadership and resist his knowledge and wisdom, he might get offended on the grand scale (he can beat the Cancer in a level of his offense). Of course, he sincerely knows what’s better for you!
To win his heart is not too hard. He’ll win you himself, if he’s interested. However if he’s not interested, you are at great risk to hear everything he thinks about you (he will be more direct then you wish he would). If he has no abilities to diplomacy and he doesn’t like something in sex with you, then he’ll say it to your face.
The same is if he wants or doesn’t want you. Most of the time his sayings do not sound polite or on time, but there is no reason to argue. The Sagittarius will do whatever he wants to do and will base his behavior on impeccable logic and philosophy. After listening to his logic you will have two choices – to get all the pleasure or to run away in case he rejects you.
There are good news and bad news about the Sag.The bad news is you can’t argue his verdict. The good news is that it’s very easy to figure him out.
Capricorn Love & Sex Horoscope
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The Capricorn is the door that’s hard to open. If you decided to win over a Capricorn, he’ll have tons of reqirements that will never be said out loud. All requirements will be up in the air. If you are a woman and are good at conversations and now to be a perfect wife? If you are a man – are you smart enough, is your income good? Do you have an occupation and what’s your social status? Till you get into sex, you will have to show all professionalism, cultural level and medical statement.
You have to be perfect inside and outside. Following this scenario by the time you get into the Capricorn’s bed will get so tiring that the only thing you would like there is to sleep and relax. However, you’ll get disappointed in a “sleeping” environment. Holding back for too long, a Capricorn can be very passionate and aggressive. He can not only twist your mind as well as a Virgo can, but can last for hours and hours during sex.
The best way to get into “harmony contact” is to get into his emotions. It’s kinda complicated because a Capricorn pretends to be blind, deaf, and dumb and he can even pretend that he never initiated the whole script. It’s not very pleasant, but can be treated. Just make sure that you don’t jump into quick conclusions. He will release himself to you “part by part” and you have to accept this fact in advance. You will find out new facts about the Capricorn every month because he’ll tell you his story differently every time. The story line will depend on his trust level. I think a couple of years will be enough to figure him out.
Capricorns are plants that require watering. If you want fast and bright relationships then you should go after a Cancer. Well, good luck, knock on the door and it might open for you.
Aquarius Love & Sex Horoscope
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An Aquarius keeps his intellectual and sexual lives totally separate. There is no connection between them. If you want to have sex with him, do not complicate this case, just tell him straight up what you want from him. He’ll consider the offer and give you an answer.
However, there is a totally different situation when you talk about long term serious relationships. An Aquarious will tell that you he loves freedom more than any other sign. This is the truth as well as to get him into relationships is also much easier than any other sign. You really have to operate by big ideas such as to die holding hands, have a huge family (show an example of Don Corleone) anyways, the larger the scale and the closer it is to saving humanity, the better.
By the time you get real love and warmth in bed you will have to go through tons of conflicts and crisises. Even though the Aquarius can get closer to people easily, he is too careful in the intimacy territory. He exceeded the suspicious Taurus and the umbrageous Cancer because the Taurus and Cancer are ruled by emotions and an Aquarious is ruled by his brain.
What kind of sex you should expect is a great question. You will be too busy setting personal boundaries, sharing personal territory, negotiating roles and discussing freedom. Your couple will be too busy with activities names above. Sometimes you won’t even have time for sex. An Aquarius needs to have an all ideas “right” and pleasure can wait. The only way to make everyone happy is to explain that pleasure is absolutely nessasary for the idea of saving humanity…through sexual contact.
If you don’t run away after all those intellectual discussions, then you’ll win. To play games with an Aquarius is useless because their intuition is perfect. If you don’t share his life values and try to implement your own values, then you’ll lose. His values and ideas are much more valuable for him than sex. That’s why you have to really let his ideas into your soul, otherwise you have to go and look for a mate with another sign
